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A homemade gift can make a difference in someone’s life: Help prevent ACEs

11/30/2020

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This post is made possible with support from the American Academy of Pediatrics through a cooperative agreement with the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. All opinions are my own.
A homemade gift can make a difference in someone’s life: Help prevent ACEs
This year has been hard for all of us. We weren’t prepared to handle this health crisis, and it has been tough to be isolated from the world. We all have been learning to cope in different ways, but having a few people we can lean on has been priceless.

I have been working long hours in the hospital, and one of my goals has been making sure my son has been in contact with his support system so we can help prevent Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). In a nutshell, ACEs are potentially traumatic experiences during childhood that can affect life-quality as an adult. A few months ago, I shared with you a blog post explaining ACEs and the importance of finding at least three people for your child to help prevent ACEs.

​While I was helping my son find his three people, I realized I could myself become part of someone’s three. So I did. I reached out to my son’s friend. She had been having some health issues, and I wanted to make sure she knew she could talk to me and confide in me. Since then, she has been texting me questions and asking for academic advice. She is a very shy teenager, and she recently told me she loves to cook but doesn’t know how to bake.
 
Since the holidays are almost here, I thought about doing something nice for her to show her she can rely on me. I want her to understand that being here for her doesn’t always mean having tough conversations but that she can reach out even if it is just because she wants to learn how to make some cookies.
 
Because we want to keep our homes safe, we will not be meeting in person. I am making her one of those DIY “cookies in a jar” crafts and dropping it at her house with all the things needed to bake the cookies (baking sheets, cooling rack, spatulas, and more). Doesn’t it look cool?
 
A homemade gift can make a difference in someone’s life Help prevent ACEs
​While teaching her how to bake cookies and giving her some baking tools, I am hoping she opens up a little bit more to me. I remember that when I was growing up, my best friend's mom (who was part of my three) taught me how to bake some cookies, and that is a long-lasting memory I have. I am hoping I can do the same for my son’s friend. Getting closer to teenagers is hard sometimes, but we all can find something they like to be able to become part of their three. They need to know that they have safe, stable, and nurturing relationships.
 
If you are part of someone’s three, think about a way of making them feel special this holiday season. Do they have a new phone? Maybe get them a pop socket that will make them think about you every time they hold their phone. How about a key chain or even a Christmas ornament? Think inexpensive gifts or homemade, but having in mind what they like. The gift should be something they like, so they know you have been listening.
 
You do not need to make it about the gift, but more about building the connection with the person. As you can see in the infographic below, there are a few ways to connect with teenagers. I have chosen the baking kit as a gift because this will allow me to connect with my son’s friend. We will be able to talk while we are baking together over zoom. As we are baking, we can talk about school, bullying situations or even home issues. The important part is to be able to have a bonding moment where the teen feels safe to talk about their life. It is also a good way to learn them know you are available when they need to talk to you. 
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A homemade gift can make a difference in someone’s life Help prevent ACEs
​Being part of someone’s three to help prevent ACEs is easy. It doesn’t take up a lot of your time and could make a big difference in someone’s life.
 
If you have read this far, I have some homework questions for you:
  1. Do you have your three? Three people or organizations you can count on?
  2. Are you part of someone else’s three?
 
If you answered no to any of the above questions, this is my holiday gift to you: “Go find your three and become part of someone’s three. You will be glad you did both!”
17 Comments
Pam Wattenbarger
11/30/2020 07:11:13 am

It is so important to have your three to count on in both good and bad times!

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MELANIE EDJOURIAN
11/30/2020 10:41:52 am

Homemade gifts are certainly a wonderful idea. It's great that you have chosen to help this girl. I'm sure she will benefit from having you in her life x

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Amber Myers
11/30/2020 11:54:07 am

I so wish I were more creative and could do more homemade gifts. But alas, I am not. However, I buy from Etsy, which is full of other people's homemade gifts. I'm supporting small shops, which is a win!

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Tasheena
11/30/2020 02:55:27 pm

This post is so inspiring, I love creating homemade gifts.

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Bri link
11/30/2020 06:51:10 pm

These are my absolute favorite kinds of gifts to receive! Now that I am a SAHM and might find the time I want to be the giver of them too!

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Monica Simpson
11/30/2020 09:41:15 pm

This got me thinking for sure! I believe I have a "three." I love to give gifts and help people feel safe, loved, and special.

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Nikki Wayne
12/1/2020 06:48:58 am

I love giving handmade gifts. So glad there are shops like Etsy.

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Kathy
12/1/2020 07:03:57 am

I love giving and receiving homemade gifts. It is the best. I really love this idea too. I'll have to think about doing more homemade gifts this year.

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Lynndee link
12/1/2020 08:44:26 am

I totally agree. I love giving homemade gifts and I love receiving them too.

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Natural Beauty And Makeup link
12/1/2020 12:33:22 pm

How sweet of you! I love creating homemade gifts for my family and friends. And, No, I am not part of someone else’s three yet!

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Kate | LIfe of a GInger link
12/1/2020 12:50:11 pm

That is such a cute gift idea. I love putting together customized, homemade gifts for my family and friends. It's so much more special that way.

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Swathi link
12/1/2020 08:27:57 pm

I agree with you homemade gifts gives extra touch of love those who needs most.

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Nile Flores link
12/1/2020 09:46:14 pm

I think more people need to talk more about this. With how things are today, there are a lot of people who believe that they are alone, or believe if they reached out to people, that they are a burden. I've been very verbal on social media about this, for adults, but perhaps I should also express this to children, aside from already doing so for my kid.

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Chef Dennis
12/1/2020 10:51:48 pm

I am so happy and thankful that I have my three and also a prat of someone's three! Homemade gifts are really special and heartwarming!

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Ana
12/2/2020 12:42:39 am

Couldn't agree more with a handmade gift! It is a beautiful gesture to make someone feel incredibly special!

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rika
12/2/2020 01:10:58 am

Homemade gifts always make people feel special! The cookie mix looks so pretty too!

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Gervin Khan
12/2/2020 01:30:55 am

I am so happy helping others and being a part of a tree. I love homemade gift they are more special for me.

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